Boundaries: taking back control of your life, with Jenilee Samuel


Everyone has experienced those relationships and situations where we feel unsafe and maybe powerless, but today I give you a principle that will empower you to be the most powerful person in your life, and put the control of those situations back in your hands… in a healthy way. Let’s talk BOUNDARIES!! In the intro and episode I mention a number emotions you might feel, that are indicators of a lack of boundaries; this is the link to read that article. It describes the “why you may feel this way” dynamic that can help you articulate, understand why you feel that way, empowering you to bring change. As always, don’t forget to follow me on Instagram and Facebook, and be sure you SUBSCRIBE to the podcast so you don’t miss an episode!  

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Updates & New Series on “Hearing God’s Voice”

So Good to see you, my friend!

Hey friend! Merry almost-Christmas to you! With the year winding down and me evaluating 2020, I realized it’s been loaded with both wins, losses, disorientation, and sweet family time. How can one year hold such a dichotomy of experiences? Yet it has… and you are one of the reasons my year has been beautiful. Your support, your shares and shout outs on social media, some of you have come on as financial sponsors to the show which I appreciate so much, and just plain by being a part of my community, you’ve made 2020 so meaningful for me. I appreciate you so much!

I recently recorded a series for you that I wanted to be sure you didn’t miss out on! If 2020 has taught us anything, it’s the importance of the stability that comes from knowing what God is saying to you and your family in unstable times. Hearing his voice has never been more crucial. So, that’s why I recorded this four part series on the topic. It started out as a class for our Wednesday night church services, but when I polled you guys on social media, the response was a resounding “YES! Please share the content!” So here it is. 🙂

I included the hyperlink to listen directly below each photo.

Before I let you go, as we head into 2021, could I ask you a favor? If you aren’t already supporting the podcast financially, would you consider doing that? No pressure here, but some of you have asked, and been excited to know you could! Here are some goals I have for the show for 2021 that your giving would contribute to:

  1. Marketing! I’d like to expand our audience and reach, getting the Word to more people. In November, Java with Jen was #14 in Bulgaria for Religion and Spirituality, and #92 in New Zealand! I had never considered “rankings” in the past, but when I saw these two nations’ ranks for the show (which were also the locations of my first two missions trips as a teen), it opened my eyes to the potential for spiritual impact of this show. No longer just a dream in my heart… more of a reality now! We are currently listened to in 55 nations. Your giving helps with this directly.
  2. Equipment. I am needing to get a new microphone and interface for better quality audio soon. What I’m using works for now, but I’d like to continually improve the quality of these episodes. Your giving would help with this. I’m looking at about $500 here.
  3. Compassion International! We sponsored a little girl named Pretty from Uganda, who is almost 3 years old through Compassion International. This month, the accumulated giving from listeners was able to pay for her sponsorship! I’d love to sponsor more children through the show, and your giving can help with that. If you’d like to sponsor a child directly, you can use my link to sign up. Be sure you use my link though, so that we can track how many sponsorships have come through Java with Jen! It’s $38/month and covers all aspects of their wellbeing: nutrition/meals, clothing, education, counseling, discipleship, practical skills for business & income, medical care & bedding. I can’t believe how much it covers! Use this link if you’d like to sign up directly:

If you decide you’d like to give to/sponsor the show there are three ways to do that:

  1. Patreon (monthly subscription): – This outlet allows you to choose a variety of sponsorship levels.
  2. ANCHOR (monthly subscription): – On the screen where you see the episodes, you’ll see a “support” button. Choose from $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99/mo.
  3. Venmo (one-time donation): My handle is: @JAVAWITHJEN . Since most platforms are geared toward subscriptions I had some asking for one-time donation options, and I set up Venmo for that purpose.

Should you decide to become a sponsor, please let me know! I love knowing who’s partnered with the vision of this podcast, and want to tell you thank you myself. For now, I hope you enjoy these episodes, feel free to share them with anyone who might benefit (I’m a junkie for forwarding podcasts lol!), and you have a very Merry Christmas!!

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Ep.3:Deirdre & Jen, Feeding the Fam and Loving your Season–Deirdre–Jen–Feeding-your-Fam–Loving-your-Season-e2g1qt

Hi Friends!

I’m so excited to get to introduce you to my friend Deirdre for today’s episode!!  She is one of the most encouraging, intelligent, resourceful women I know, and a great mother while juggling a head-spinning number of things… I knew she would have some gold-nuggets to share with you as you may find yourself whirling from life’s demands too.  If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed or just plain bad at knowing how to keep your family fed well with all the other things you do, you’re going to love the secrets shared in today’s show, not to mention, at the end she drops some truth bombs about loving and appreciating the season you’re in to help reduce stress.  What qualifies her to speak on these things? I’m so glad you asked!  😀

She is a mother of two precious little ones ages 5 &3, works a full time job as an Accountant at one of the nation’s largest firms, as well as working a part time job as a Leadership Developer of the staff at Chick Fil A in Vicksburg.  She is also currently in school, finishing her advanced degree in Accounting and looks forward to being done at the end of this semester.  Aside from being a wife, mother, working woman, she is in Ministry leader with her husband and has a couple pets to chase and clean up after.  Even given all of this, she manages to keep a clean home and happy, well-fed children, all the while her exuberance for life and encouragement fuels you with excitement when she comes around!!  (Just wait for it, you’ll hear it in our squeals :D)   So, listen close as I pull on her insights and share some of my own so we can help YOU feel more equipped and capable at managing your home, specifically feeding your family well, and resting into the season you’re in.

We kicked this episode off with a Life-Hacks portion, filling the episode with links, apps and services that will save you time, money and trouble, and you can find them all listed below!  (This is not a paid advertisement, just excited to help. 🙂 )

LIFE HACKS with Jen & Deirdre! 

  • Make grocery shopping easy and save time: Walmart Grocery App. Order your groceries online to save time AND money.
  • Teach me to cook!  Pinterest!  I have some great recipe boards that can get you started:
    • Kid-loved foods!  (Some of these pins my kids added themselves, so if there are repeats, that’s why. :D)
    • Holiday treat: Peppermint Merengue Puff cookies!  This is one of my own blog posts that’s been repinned on Pinterest in a number of locations hundreds of times.  It’s a classic!  It’s a recipe I found and tweaked to make my own on Pinterest.
  • Easy RecipesAmerica’s Test Kitchen on Pinterest & App (the app is currently only available for iOS devices)
    • Here’s the Mac-n-cheese recipe Deidre loved if you sign up!  (Tip: you boil the noodles in water AND milk).
  • Meal planningMealime : Keeping meals healthier!  This App & website is the easiest way to specify types of recipes you want, and to have personalized options populate for you to choose from, pick the ones you want for the week, and compiled into a shopping list.  The easiest way I’ve found to healthfully meal plan so far!  You can pay a little to get access to a larger database of recipes if you really love the app, though I haven’t had to yet, still lots of great options.
  • Lunch planning, & gets kids involved!: LaLa Lunchbox –  The website also offers an App download, which I use, and my kids can use and has made life easier!!  I believe they have a breakfast app too, but we just do lunch.

I believe those were our cooking/meal planning/how to keep it healthy suggestions, but if we missed anything you heard in the podcast that you have a question about, feel free to email me: !  Feel free to leave comments below of what you’re loving as well!

Other links mentioned.

We hope this podcast was a blessing to you, and stay tuned for more content from Deirdre in the future!!  If you enjoyed this, please share it with friends, on social media, and go on itunes to rate the podcast!  This causes more people to be able to find the podcast and be blessed by it as well!  Thanks so much and happy feeding-the-families!


Ep 2: Life in Hollywood, interview with Crystal Lott

In today’s episode we get to have a fun conversation with actress Crystal Lott, (check her out on IMDB!), who is my sister, and has been working in Hollywood for the last 15 years. The life of actors and actresses is often a mystery to the general public and it’s fun to once in a while get a sneak peek into what goes in to this adventurous, exciting lifestyle. Crystal opens up and shares about the struggles and victories of living in the acting world and encourages us with principles that can carry into our own lives as well. If YOU’RE interested in pursuing an acting career, she saves some valuable tips for the end of the episode you won’t want to miss!  As you’ll hear in the show, Crystal is creative and an avid explorer of all sorts of new ways to add new skills to her acting resume, so I shared with my listeners that I would be posting some fun photos of some of the adventures she and I have had together on her journey of discovering new talents.  I hope you enjoy the episode and please share with friends and on social media!  Tag me if you share it for a shout-out in my stories! 😀

Don’t forget to connect with Crystal on social media & IMDB:

Instagram: @crys.lovebird

Email Crystal with questions or role considerations:

You can also follow me on Instagram: @jenileesamuelstyling 

Email any questions you may for me about the Java with Jen podcast at:

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Podcast Recording Time!!  

Even trips to Walmart are an adventure with “Aunt Kissy”!

Her nephews (my boys) ADORE her and insisted on driving with me at midnight all the way to Houston to pick her up, sleeping on the way home, but of course dragging their tired bodies out of the car for a classic photo at Buccee’s with their Aunt. 🙂 (It was about 2 am in this photo!)

Dolby Theatre with Crystal on one of my visits.  For those who don’t know, this is where America’s Got Talent does their final shows, and it’s also where the Emmy’s are held!

Formerly known as the Kodak Theatre, this is the red carpet stair case normally adorned with huge golden statues for the big awards night!

Because, History.  (Billy Graham)

Johnny Depp was such a doll to let me pose with him. Clearly he was excited… or in character… or made of wax… we’ll never know.

CINESPIA is a wonderful outdoor summer experience in LA!!!  They once or twice weekly sell tickets for a lawn movie at the local cemetery and THOUSANDS set up with blankets and chairs and food… if you do this, be prepared with some layers… once the sun goes down it gets down into the 60’s, I think this night was the 50’s.  We watched “Alien” and of course don’t forget to take a photo at their very authentic photo booth.  (I wasn’t trying to pose all cool… I was freezing cold and the lights were so bright, my face was actually my “Where are we supposed to look? Where’s the camera?- FLASH!- Oh… I’m blind now anyways…” LOL!

Crystal is kind enough to always make time for my own little adventures, and being a fashion stylist, I wanted to go see the fashion museum… it was wonderful!

A few years ago, this was her creative idea for making memories with the girls in our family… do a pinup photo shoot!  When we were done we went around LA, grabbed lunch, went by the Warner Bros studios and people stopped us and took our pictures, probably thinking we were in costume for a film. 😀 It was funny, and a total blast!

And of course… MERMAIDING!!!

(This lovely blonde is my twin sister who was also joining the adventure and honing some new skills!)

And of course when you’re as silly and adventurous as Crystal… bloopers will abound!

Tell me the story of my tears from your eyes…

‘I remember the devotion of your youth, how as a bride you loved me and followed me through the desert, through a land not sown.’- Jeremiah 2:2 (the Lord speaking through Jeremiah to Israel)

There are indeed seasons of barrenness meant to build in us perseverence, steadfastness, unwaivering committed love. No marriage is always bliss, and that includes my marriage to the Most High. The seasons where “feeling”, “emotional rapture”, and thrilling encounters with God seem like a distant memory. Surely I must be doing something wrong if I’m not connecting with him like I long to, right?


But sometimes, if the Holy Spirit is bringing no correction to my attention, I must forsake the voices of condemnation and accusation that burden me with burdens not mine.

In those times i must realize, those tears I cry because I cannot seem to touch him like I have before, those tears are PRICELESS to his ravished heart.

His heart is ravished with me. Song of Solomon says that one glance of my eyes steals his heart, making him “weak” with love.

Surely if he loves me so, and I were doing something wrong, would he not faithfully show me?

These tears I shed in longing, these frustrations I endure as I pray, wait, worship, press in, and find no emotional connection with Him, those tears are far more valuable to his heart that longs to be sought after than the laughter of a quick connection.

To him, those tears tell a story of a love which will pursue him THROUGH the desert.  Do I always feel of great courage to follow? No. Many times I feel faint of heart as I grasp upward only to grip nothing, finding my pursuit of him so mightily tempted to wane.

But then I remind myself that though those times of prayer, waiting, worship, reading-only-to-find-nothing-life-changing may feel like wasted moments, that to God, they are invaluable. I am sowing to the Spirit, and in time I will reap of the Spirit.

I am sowing to Love. And in time, I will reap in Love.

So Lord, though my heart grow faint within me and I have no great thing to offer, I offer you my longing. I offer you my tears. I offer you my perseverent pursuit of you… for the ways I long to know you Compel me to chase you even still.

I believe these tears of mine have a voice to you… and on the other side of eternity, would you share with me of their worth to you, read me that story that they have told?

Though I feel you not, I will love you.tear on eyelashes

Though I touch you not, I will reach for you.

Though I “see” you not, I will search for you.

I will follow you even through the desert, because I know that in time, the desert must end.

In time, your ravished heart will turn and ravish mine.

In time, my steady and sometimes bitter pursuit will yield a sweeter, richer Love between us than I have ever known.

So Lord, I come.

(Written August 2009.)